Just yesterday, I believed marriage was overrated.
I even wrote a blog about it, calling it a trap—an outdated social structure where love fades, peace is hijacked, and expectations suck the life out of you. I saw it more as a business deal than a bond; more of a liability than a blessing.
But today… something changed.
Not because I heard a sermon.
Not because someone persuaded me to change my views.
But through a simple observation: the way young ones look up to their parents when they are weak, sick, or scared.
That silent, unspoken trust—“You’ll take care of me, right?”—cut through all my beliefs.
They depend on us with all their heart.
And one day, we too will be old, frail, and in need of someone to lean on.
Not just for food or medicine.
But for warmth. For care. For presence. For a sense of belonging.
A New Change in My View
What changed my outlook on marriage?
It was the realization that when our jolly, youthful roller-coaster ride is over—when we’re old and sick—we’ll need someone by our side.
Just like our little kids need us now, we will one day need someone to support us then.
It’s not about dependency or fear.
It’s about life coming full circle.
The old should care for the young and make way for the new.
And the new, in turn, should care for the old.
That’s how nature flows.
Is Marriage Still Relevant in Today’s Fast, Individualistic World?
Yes. Very much so.
Even in a world that moves fast and prioritizes self-focus, time slows down for everyone eventually.
Ego fades. Careers end. Friends drift away. And our need for emotional anchoring deepens.
When you lose your speed, you crave support.
When the applause fades, you want someone by your side.
Real-Life Proof
I’ve seen relatives and friends in imperfect marriages—far from storybook perfect—but they stayed.
Through grief, sickness, and hardship, they stood by each other.
That’s not drama. That’s commitment.
That’s family.
And family, at its root, begins with a bond.
Often, that bond is marriage.
What Love and Companionship Mean to Me Now
Earlier, I thought love was about passion—feeling alive.
Now, I see it as something quieter: mutual support, both emotional and physical.
Someone to lean on.
Someone to walk with.
Someone who stays when things get ugly.
Is Marriage Responsibility or Romance?
Marriage is both.
But even if romance fades—and it might—if responsibility remains, I believe the marriage has succeeded.
Because when life gets real, it’s not the candlelight dinners that matter…
It’s who holds your hand when you’re burning with fever at 2 a.m.
What Kind of Marriage Would Be Worth It?
A marriage where two people support each other in spite of the chaos.
Where differences don’t become daggers.
Where silence doesn’t become distance.
Where you can be yourself—messy, flawed, vulnerable—and still be seen.
Do We Owe Something to the Next Generation?
Yes. We owe them emotional nourishment, structure, and love.
A safe space to grow up in.
And marriage—done with maturity—can offer that foundation.
It’s no longer just about us.
It’s about what we pass on.
What Scares Me About Old Age
Not physical pain. Not even death.
But loneliness.
Being forgotten. Becoming irrelevant.
That’s terrifying.
And now, I believe that marriage, at its best, offers you a tribe.
A reason to be remembered.
A reason to still matter.
If I Could Redesign Marriage…
I’d eliminate algorithmic matchmaking and societal pressure.
Compatibility isn’t a checklist—it’s something you live and experience.
Two people should deeply understand each other emotionally and mentally before tying the knot.
And the arranged marriage system—especially the version found on online matrimonial sites—needs a complete overhaul.
The One Truth That Took Me Years to Learn
I thought I could stay alone forever.
I believed independence made me invincible.
But aging, illness, and isolation are humbling.
They break you down.
And in those moments, you realize—more than anything else—you need someone who genuinely gives a damn about you.
Final Words
This isn’t a retraction of my earlier blog.
It’s an evolution of thought—because I believe in seeing both sides of the coin.
Marriage isn’t a magic pill. It’s not the only path to love or peace.
But under the right conditions, with the right person, it becomes a shelter during life’s storms.
A shared lifeboat—not a solo survival raft.
Don’t rush into it.
But don’t dismiss it either.
Because sometimes, what we overlook today…
might be the very thing we long for— before it’s too late.
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Excellent reflection. Sentences without any expectations. Purely self belief and one’s own understanding. Most importantly I strongly agree with the blogger’s view about marriage and married life.